May 2015 Blog Archives

 

 

May 29, 2015

 

Their world is so much different from ours.......

 

Parenting today is not the same as the challenges our parents faced.  Technology, while improving our lives in many ways, has also created a society of people who simply don't communicate the same.  They can talk for hours on text or social media, but get them together in real time and no one has anything to say.  And my personal favorite is the inability to ask each other anything, but they will text you in the same room to find out what they need to know........  

 

I mourned the loss of cursive writing being taught in our schools and I mourn the loss of communication.  I know there are those that will tell you we have more than made up for it, but I am simply not convinced.  There are so many little things that I took for granted that seem to be missing now. For instance, I have a friend who can always make me laugh.  That loses something in the translation over an electronic device.

 

It is as simple as putting down the phone, or whatever, and looking up.  Up to the people around you, up to the car about to run over you, up to the loving faces of your family, up to a reflection of yourself so you can check to see if you recognize that person.  It's a suggestion.  From a person who continues to benefit from real face to face words, hugs, and concern.  And I still believe I am better for it.

 

May 28, 2015

 

Old dogs.......new technology........

 

My son had to give a speech for his English class and it was a pretty big deal, so he practiced on us many times.  The speech was on Memes and gifs.  Now if you are not-so-computer savvy, you might be like us and not know what the heck those things are.  But when you've heard an explanation, even about confusing technology, fifteen or so times, it tends to sink in.  So solely as a community service gesture, I am going to enlighten you!

 

Memes are humorous cartoons on the internet.  They've been around since the possible first one in about 1989 - yes, all that long time ago....  They stem from our need for humor and now are too numerous to count on the net.  Companies use them to attract customers and they are even using them now to address serious issues like animal abuse, child abuse or smoking.  The current fad, emphasis on current it can change in 15 seconds, is to make a meme of a celebrity.  In other words, they will cut up or change around a celeb picture and then caption it for humor.  Yes, we've all seen them, but perhaps you just didn't know the proper name for them.  Shame on you!  

 

Gifs are, and this is the simple explanation, memes set to video so they go from a still picture to more entertainment.  Gifs are a dot com kind of thing, so the video would be momdiscoversmemes.gif and it would be easy to make fun of my lack of knowledge.  And for those of you worried about spelling, there is no 't' in gif, so stop trying to put one in there.

 

Our son made a top score on his speech and thankfully there was no test for the parents.  Whew!  We are, however, much more enlightened and marginally poised for the next technology change.  So I had a moment, but it didn't last long, because yesterday I said something to the kids about #havingagreattime and they hooted with laughter.  It seems hashtags are 'so yesterday and lame'.  

 

How's a mom to keep up?  I had just gotten the hang of it!  So at the risk of being ridiculous, I'm #behindagain.

 

 

 

 

May 27, 2015

 

Paul Bunyon is in the house.....

 

Okay, not Paul and not in the house, in the woods behind the house.  My husband, brillant man and hard worker, decided to cut down an enormous dead tree to save $2000.  The premise is understandable, but it's not a foolproof situation.  First of all, he's not a lumberjack.  He's a weekend hacker with a chain saw.  And while I will agree that it's a basic concept, I have to say the sheer size of the tree outweighs any mere amount of skill and preparation.  So after careful thought, I have narrowed my job in all this down:  Field calls from the neighbors who are concerned he is going to die, take him water to keep him hydrated and thereby maximizing his brain power, pray, and dial 911 then wait to push send.  Not that I expect a failure mind you, just in case.......

 

So here's a fun fact:  More accidents happen at home than anywhere else.  But we've no worries, he's in the woods behind the house.  We are all over this!  He said he was taking two comp days off during the week, so I thought, "Play date!  Movies, head over to Lake Michigan, paint my office.  I'll clear my schedule!"  But he said seriously, "I'll be cutting down trees in the woods."  And the shopping turned out to be Lowe's to get a new chain saw blade.  Woo-Hoo!  We were so not on the same page.....  

 

But no worries.  Tomorrow he has to go back to work, so we just have to get through today.  Doable, right?  And my phone is fully charged, the address on the house is fully visible, and nothing is blocking the driveway - I checked.  We are flat not going to discuss the hernia he could get carrying all those logs to the fire pit and I'm not going to help him because I have to stay fit for the recovery, in case there is one... So I repeat, we got this....  Yes sir, this is the comp day people dream about!  

 

And again, it is often a straight up wonder to me that males and females can cohabitate at all.......  

 

 

May 26, 2015

 

Well the cord is officially fraying.......

 

My son is headed on a field trip and this will be the first time one of his parents won't be there.  He's not the least bit concerned, but we will have no real quality of life until he gets back off that bus at 5pm.  I know what people say.......  "It's good for him to be without you."  Humph  "He'll be fine."  Okay  "He has to learn to be in the world without you."  WHATEVER!  It's not him I'm worried about.  It's me.

 

I haven't read any accounts of buses wrecking, kids falling off roller coasters or worse yet, roller coasters falling off tracks.  I've sent every angel available to be with him, he'll probably feel smothered all day and wonder why!  Lol  Two of the moms I trust are on the field trip.  I've got lots to do......  Did I miss anything?  Yes!  I forgot to send him with money.......  OMG!  He will probably die of thirst!  So I called one of the moms and asked her to give him money....  Thank God she had extra money - I probably would not have, me of the 'bet I can scrape up a dollar in change if you really need it'........

 

So today, I am learning a lesson in parenthood.  Again.  And for the record, letting go really sucks.  But he will come home starved, tired, sticky from suntan lotion (please God let him remember to put it on), and filled with stories about the day.  I got that part for sure and I'm looking forward to it.  Then we will all sleep well from our big day.  And tomorrow, I will let go again........  Yay!  Something to look forward to.........

 

 

 

May 25, 2015

 

I never write about my Cindy........

 

But today, when we are honoring our fallen soldiers, I hold her very close to my heart.  I met her when she was young, just married, and starting out on a desk next to mine.  She was about to be pregnant and become a mom, begin what has become a wonderful, loving family. She was smart, beautiful, talented, and brillant at keeping something in check......

 

Cindy's first love was in the military and he was killed in a helicopter crash, not much more than a year after they were married.  She was adjusting to life in a totally different state and marital bliss with her high school sweetheart, when the chaplains visited her.  That is something every military spouse fears.....  

 

She traversed the unknown, burying a local hero, changing her life again, and trying to come back home to a world she had known for so many years, but this time without him.  She has a strong faith, a loving heart, a supportive family, and a determination that helped her rebuild her life, but it was not easy.  She laid him to rest near her, but his father could not bear that his only son was not buried in Arlington National Cemetery.  So, after a few years of grief and prayer, she had his body taken to Arlington to rest among his peers and give his father the only peace that he could find in his own grief.  

 

These days, with a whole different family, she is often asked around military holidays to give her comments about that time in her life.  She never fails to do it with the honor her soldier so deserves.  She is not as quick to tears now, but the grief still shows on her face.  We call them hard life lessons, but they are so very much more.....  

 

Behind every soldier who perishes is a family whose loss is palpable.  It is they who are left with the job of 'soldiering on', despite some pretty dark and difficult days.  Today, the military cemetery near my home was dotted with loved ones trying to make the puzzled pieces of life and grief fit. When we honor our fallen soldiers, those of us who choose to, those families are in that circle of life and death.  They are the living embodiment of our grief and hope for more, even when we cannot quite put our finger on peace in this world.  

 

So here's to my Cindy and the millions like her.  I am awed by your spirit and example.  My prayer is not just for those in harm's way now, but also for you.  May you somehow come to know a measure of peace.  Thank you for your sacrifice.  Please know you are a reflection of the best of us all.

 

 

May 22, 2015

 

Because they hold the sacred so well.........

 

If you know me at all, you know I have a special place in my heart for veterans.  Guess I'm just THAT serious about freedom.... I believe when true veterans die, they go right back to God.  Their reminders, the crosses in a cemetery or the flags that adorn them, hold us accountable in many different ways.  For me, the veterans have come, done their job, and more than learned their lessons while so intricately teaching us all.  It's their families that my heart goes out to.....

 

I didn't experience personal loss, but I attended a few funerals for those who did.  Families of veterans, who certainly didn't have all the answers to why they were gone, but held tightly to the sacred.  I did make arrangements for that to happen to my husband before he was deployed to the Gulf War.  We signed wills, talked about the where's and how's of a funeral, should it happen.  I am thankful it did not, but I am also acutely aware that it wasn't the case for everyone.

 

So this weekend, love your families, friends and celebrate the sun shining and the smell of fresh cut grass.  Take a moment to give thanks for those of us who are not here, but so fiercely held freedom in their hearts.  And say a prayer for the families, whose job it is to be here without the people they love to further make the point.  Sacrifice is a difficult concept, and lots of people have varying viewpoints, but I think we can all agree that the families they leave behind deserve our respect and kindness.  Thank you for serving our great country.  May God truly hold you in the palm of his hands. Please know it was not in vain and that we will always remember......

 

 

May 21, 2015

 

What if it just isn't fair?

 

This time of year lots of awards are handed out and you can't help thinking that some of the people who should get recognized get missed. Logic tells you that everyone can't be awarded, but sometimes you want to make up for it somehow.  My guidance is that if we believe there is a reason to praise someone, we make sure and say it.  If you think someone should have gotten an award and they did not, tell them you thought so in a kind way.  Let them know you have value for them and saw the hard work they did.  Kudos are never wasted!

 

Awards are a great idea and they let us know we are on the right track.  Still, awarding everyone like we sometimes do in sports isn't the answer - just like if everything was perfect in life how would we ever learn any lessons?  In the end it really boils down to how we treat each other.  If we have some kudos to share, let's just do it!  And let's don't be shy.  I say everything is on the table from "Wow, that's an awesome set of shoe laces!"  To, "Valedictorian?  How incredible!"  Either way, we are so proud of you and just want you to know it.  

 

And remember, sometimes the smallest things were the hardest ones for someone to accomplish, so no kudo is too small..... Or when the big ones are overwhelming with praise, I wait a week or so and then say it so they can soak it in a little more....  In a perfect world, we would all be praised.  But until we become perfect, let's just give it our best shot!

 

 

May 20, 2015

 

Do you know who you are talking to?

 

I had a client recently, who spent years with someone who needed to change him entirely to be happy with him.  I found it interesting that the very thing his spouse had picked him for was exactly what she didn't want.  Neither one of them were really wrong, just grossly misinformed. I used to read a column entitled, "Can This Marriage Be Saved?"  In my mind, this one could, but they would both have to be introduced to each other all over again and start from scratch......  Then of course, when they knew who they were getting, their outcome might change, but they would have a concrete reason for it.  At least then they would understand.  Now all they are left with is that it didn't work.

 

We spend a lot of time trying to figure out whose fault everything is, when actually we should just figure out if the problem was ever clear or even doable to start with.  In marriages, we just put one foot in front of the other hoping for a better outcome, but if we don't know how to be married, unless we are hit by a marriage meteor filled with information, it isn't likely to happen.  In a marriage, we are only as good as what we know about marriage.  So if you were raised by parents who didn't know how to communicate, you won't either.  See the problem?

 

Marriage counseling is smarter than putting one foot in front of the other and waiting to become enlightened.  It is not an admission of guilt.  It is an education of love.  It is a chance to make your footsteps together count.  If you don't know who you are talking to, you are wasting your breath. Think about it.  Put the building blocks in place and then do the work.  You can't live on initial attraction forever and you both deserve a fair chance.

 

 

May 19, 2015

 

Let the music ring out!

 

Band concert time and the boy is playing tuba and bass guitar.  Remember when you were cool?  For some people that happens all the time, but for some of us it's rare.  I remember one week in my early twenties when my hair was cooperating, my body got some coordination, and I managed to have the right clothes for the whole thing!  But honestly, it's been real sporadic since then.........

 

When my son was taking bass guitar lessons, the instructor said it was one of the few instruments where you just always looked cool playing it.  He was right about that.  Funny thing is I don't even think my son realizes it.  Or maybe that's what makes it cool?  In any event, there are times when all the planets line up and the sun just shines right on your face and you rock!  It was fun to see it happen to someone I love.

 

I hope you rock this week, this month, this year.  For a moment, for an hour, for a week or even more!  I hope you realize it and I hope you know how to get it back again.  Because really?  We all need that boost.  It's confirmation that we do have it all, we just need to take it on the road!  Happy being cool week!

 

May 18, 2015

 

It was just important to see her in person........

 

I went to visit my friend Lori today.  She is recovering from a double mastectomy and even though I know she is being well taken care of, I just needed to see her.  I just had to know that she was truly okay and fighting just as much as I wanted her to, which let's face it, is a whole lot!  

 

She was tired, and who could blame her?  But she is as fiercely filled with love as always and holding on to the sacred like only she can. Haven't you ever wanted to just get out your magic wand and fix something?  Just one little wave and some magic words, then poof!  All better now.  Oh I so wished my wand was working so I could ease her suffering.......  

 

know things happen for a reason.  I know it is an intricate plan that really does work.  I know honoring our Spirit and feeding our soul is a life's work.  But that doesn't mean I have to like it or that I don't wish it was different.  Amazing Lori, please know you have the wisdom of the ages, the courage of a lioness, the heart of a true mother, and grace from the angels.  As you get well, know you are teaching us all valuable lessons, just by being so incredible.  And know we are all holding healing energy, saying our prayers and climbing this mountain alongside you.  (My job is to bring the chocolate!)

 

 

May 15, 2015

 

I do so love the flowers......

 

One day there was snow on the ground and literally the very next day there were weeds!  How does that happen?  Everything here in the frozen Michigan land seems to be just right under the surface waiting for their chance to shine.  Nature knows they only have a little while before the cold sets in again.  So the second they see their opportunity?  BAM!  Here they are!

 

I love that the flowers just come bursting out and are so fierce in holding their own against May rain and wind chill.  It empowers me to press on in this busy month.  The chipmunks zip across my yard in a huge hurry to play, dig, and eat everything they can.  It would be impossible to count how many there really are with all the running around.  The trees fill in quickly and we can't see the deer that roam around in winter, but I know they are out there and loving all the new foliage to munch on.  And I see the raccoons are still not shy.....still cheeky!

 

Mother's Day marks the time to plan the flowers and give them the spring rain, so all the colors I love are popping and it does make you linger at the window with thankfulness.  I hope you are blooming too, after the introspective winter.  Go for it!  Be it known........ it's our time to shine!

 

May 14, 2015

 

This time of year.......

 

I am lucky to know what day of the week it is, let alone what date.  It's always busy and I wonder, "Why does everyone have to do everything in May?"  Where were these things in January and February when we didn't have anything to do?  Even Hallmark screwed it up...... Mother's Day in May and Father's Day in June.  How about we spread that out a little better, if for no other reason that to use it as an excuse to travel out of Michigan in freezing weather?  But alas.....Hallmark didn't call me way back in the dark ages when they created special days.

 

And don't even get me started on movies!  Memorial Day weekend, every movie you ever wanted to see will come out at the same time.  But way back in March when we needed a good one?  Not so much.  It will take $500 to see everything before it leaves the theaters in May! Seems to me like we need to shake up the yearly calendar just a little and realign some dates, but maybe that's just because I'm currently overwhelmed.

 

If you are as harried as I am trying to squeeze in all the events May has to offer, just know that kick-back-summer is coming and it has your name on it.  At least that's what I tell myself and it does truly help.......

 

 

May 13, 2015

 

Bring it on home........

 

It's a southern expression, but it runs through my mind this time of year.  All those graduation pictures and awards being given out, everyone dressed up and smiling, pomp and circumstance, pooped and hungry!  Go get the good stuff and bring it on home......  Then we can really hug, put on something more comfortable, eat all our favorite things, and celebrate you in style.  Oh and you can be sure we will!

 

I find such joy in those I love excelling.  I love to know all the things that interest them and how they are changing the world.  Veterinary medicine, criminal justice, art, education, music, and more.  We are a fine bunch and the world is a better place because we are in it!  Yeah! That's the stuff I'm talking about........

 

For all the times we work so hard to be sad or worried, let's just use this whole month to celebrate.  Let's take all that energy we have and put it to good use bringing out the joy and pouring on the love.  It's only a wonderful accomplishment when you share it with someone who cares about you, so share it!  We have been here through your difficult times and now........WE DANCE!

 

May 12, 2015

 

Sometimes wisdom just falls short.......

 

I spoke with a young client, still on the cusp of womanhood and life.  She was worried about her life decisions, thinking she wouldn't be able to change them.  What if she made mistakes?  What if the guy she likes isn't Mr. Happy-Ever-After?  What if he is?  So many decisions and what seems like so little time......

 

But from this almost sixty perspective, she has all the time in the world!  And will she make mistakes?  I hope so.  Will she change careers? Probably.  Will she fall in and out of love?  Absolutely.  And will they all be Mr. Happy-Ever-After?  Probably not...... Problem is:  How do you say that to her when the right now matters so much?  How do you say it will all be okay without being condescending or sounding like you aren't really taking it seriously?  In other words, sometimes wisdom doesn't solve anything.

 

I love that the world really is her oyster.  I was intrigued that she is seriously considering living in New Zealand.  I didn't even know where that was when I was her age......  I was encouraged when she really did understand that being independent would make her more attractive to Mr. Right and probably less so to Mr. Right-Now.  I was astounded at the knowledge she already possesses and her ability to step outside the box to get what she wants - or at least thinks she wants.  

 

At the risk of sounding like an old woman, the world really has changed so much since I was her age and I am very thankful.  I'm not one of those people who worries about what will happen to her in the future, I prefer instead to sit back and be amazed by her possibilities.  And I fully intend to visit her in New Zealand, wherever it is!

 

May 11, 2015

 

know God loves me.........

 

Mother's Day is extra special for me.  I don't get older, I don't have to buy presents, I just get to love my son!  Such fun and I'm really good at it.  Being a mother let's me know that God really does love me.  After all, He thinks I am special enough to have this extraordinary responsibility.  I guess He knew I would put my whole heart in it!

 

My road to being a mother was not an easy one, it took many years and a whole lot of praying.  Ben arrived in God's Time and it has been a lesson in love every day since then.  (Thank you Kate, we love you!)  I cannot imagine this life without him and despite all the jobs I've had and enjoyed, I can't imagine a better one that being his mom.  

 

It is my wish for the world that one day, every child will know they are loved.  That every mother will see the miracle of it and treat it like the gift it truly is.  I've often told prospective parents that babies grow in your heart, because they really do.  And whether they are biologically yours, share your race, reflect your beliefs or bring a whole new concept into your life, they will strengthen and educate you in the ways of love.  I know I am blessed and I thank God for seeing my heart so clearly.  A psychic once told me that the angels said I thanked God constantly for my son and it wasn't necessary.  After all, He knew I was thankful....  But I don't intend to stop.  It's a message that comes straight from my heart and my intention is that Ben will always know he is celebrated.

 

I love you Ben!  Thanks for being our boy.  Thanks for making me a mother.  And thank you God for Benjamin. 

 

 

May 8, 2015

 

She wins hands down.......

 

Mother's Day is Sunday and it always brings to mind, at least for me, how to make sure my son knows he is loved no matter what.  I want him to know that I carry him so deeply in my heart and soul that nothing can change it.  I want him to know that it is my great honor to be his mother in this lifetime and that I will always consider him a gift from God.  For me, it's not about honoring me on this day, it's about celebrating that I AM a mother.  YEAH!  I know nothing else will ever measure up.....

 

My friend, Lori, found out that she had breast cancer just a few short weeks ago.  Education and physicians led her to choose a double mastectomy and reconstruction.  She did that this week.  Her triplets will visit her in the hospital on this Mother's Day, but they will know that her choice is to be here and love them just as long as she possibly can.  To be sure it is difficult surgery, but it is also such an amazing gift for her children...... A sure example that choosing life is worth it after all - that's a powerful lesson to carry with you.

 

Lori, know that I hold your mother's heart in my heart.  Know that I get the sacrifice and see it for the enormous love it represents.  And know, that I wish you healing surrounded by all the love you have so generously created and maintained.  I keep thinking the word extraordinary, but then isn't every true mother's heart?  Godspeed my friend, may you always lead with your heart.

 

 

May 7, 2015

 

Eye of the beholder......

 

Artist Sayaka Ganz came to our school and taught the children how to do the art she is famous for.  It was fun, but it was also tedious, exacting, time consuming, and required enormous amounts of patience!  Most of the 25 or so people there decided pretty quickly they didn't want to do that for a career.......

 

It was a great learning experience though, because in just four hours, we did create a masterpiece worthy of display on the school walls and everyone agreed that her visions were awesome.  Most of us didn't have that vision until the last 15 minutes, but it was worth the wait.

 

I've always struggled with the knowledge that most people don't think the same way I do.  Not that my way is so extraordinary, just that it's so hard to get everyone on the same page!  But I was really glad that Sayaka thought so uniquely and she taught me to see in an entirely different way.  Thanks for the life lesson Sayaka!  You really do blow ordinary out of the water........

 

 

May 6, 2015

 

Long time, no see........

 

My husband recently spent an afternoon with a family member he had not seen or talked to in a many years.  It was a pleasant visit and it was lovely to get to know her children.  They reminisced about growing up and shared some pictures.  They chatted around their lives and brought themselves, more or less, to the present.  

 

It was nice, but not easy for me.  I kept wanting to say, "Where in the world have you been?  Why haven't you come before now?  How can this just suddenly be okay all these years later?"  But that didn't happen.  I kept waiting for the 'other shoe' to drop - but it didn't.  They just visited, were nice and presto! chango! it was over.  I'm still reeling from the inanity of it all.  And yet, it needed to happen.

 

When I get to the other side, I'm going straight to the top and ask all the questions I have here on earth.  There will be no rest for anyone until I get some answers!  And boy do I have some doosey questions.  When I was a kid I used to write them all down in a book.  I didn't have a diary, I knew what was happening, I just had questions, but if I had written everything down I would need my own I-Cloud to store them.  Very few have been answered, but I'm working on it.

 

Life is frustrating at times and just plain bewildering at others.  I can see the design, but I don't always agree with the method.  But someday, someday.......  it will all make some perfect sense to me.  Or else!

 

May 5, 2015

 

Why does everything happen at once?

 

There were days in the winter when I had absolutely nothing to do (not counting laundry or grocery shopping of course).  But now, here in May, there aren't enough hours in the day and the to-do lists are ridiculous!

 

It's the chicken and the egg thing, you can't clean your house in January for a visitor in May, you can't cook a fabulous or even mediocre meal in March and serve it in June.  You can wish you could, but that's about the size of it.

 

We wouldn't change the fun times and most of us even love to be busy, but wouldn't it be great if we could just even it all out a little?  A friend told me yesterday they just put all the wedding, graduation, and honors invitations out on the table, got their calendars out and began to eliminate.......... Trouble is, they could have gone to them all in February!

 

Hectic is good, but exhausting.  Take vitamins and dream of laying on the beach in July........  Right after you plan the picnic, send out the invitations for guests to celebrate the fourth with, and buy the fireworks!

 

 

May 4, 2015

 

We need a new party song........

 

I actually said to someone that, "We should party like it was 1999."  BIG mistake, because they weren't born then!  Embarrassing! We need a new frame of reference, because I was living in 1999 and it was fun.  But if you do the math?  Well, that's just not pretty.  To a teenager, 16 years ago is......forever.  Maybe we should consider 2009?

 

I remember when a family member used to refer to James Dean as the sexiest man alive.  Hello!  He died in 1955 - you can burn your brain completely up doing that kind of math!  Surely we've had some handsome men since then to upgrade to?  Recently someone at a party said, "Remember the movie "10" and Bo Derek running down the beach?"  We all just quietly walked away........  We can't be talking about that!  It was 1979 and Bo Derek is, get this, almost 60.  She probably runs a little slower down the beach now I'm thinking......

 

Today is 'May the 4th be with you' day.  A new Star Wars movie is coming out.  Know when the first one appeared on the scene? 1977.  Of course, it's a household word now, but if you were alive then you might remember Harrison Ford as a heartthrob and not the gray-haired father of the lead actors in the latest movie, "The Age of Adaline".  

 

It really does all go around and come around.  And when it comes back around?  Sometimes it just doesn't look the same, but you're heart can still be in it......  May the force be with you!

 

May 1, 2015

 

Old pictures do matter.......

 

This weekend, we ran across some really old pictures and had no clue who they were, so we were going to just discard them.  Good thing we asked family members first, it was my husband's great-grand and grand parents when they were young!  Who knew?  He had no memory of them in their twenties of course, so they just didn't seem familar, until he really looked at them.....  And sure enough, there were the eyes, the knowing curve to their smiles and just a hint of the significant people they would become in our lives.  

 

I realized my own child wouldn't have recognized me at his current age, even though he knows me now, wrinkles and all.  My dad died in his early forties, and I have often wished I could have known him in his twenties.  He was quite the popular man, a charismatic smile, and quick wit. He loved his family fiercely and loved to laugh.  Years ago I interviewed people for a feature in a Texas paper and I was often asked who I most wanted to interview.  It was always my Dad.  I could have worn that man out with questions!  

 

It's hard to understand what the lesson of youth versus age really means to those of us who love someone so much just the way they are. Hard to remember they had young dreams and sparkles in their eyes, too.  I only know they made me feel as though I mattered to them and it was such a gift. And when I think about it?  I do know things..... like my grandmother loved to dance, my grandfather played the harmonica, my dad was amazing on a basketball court, and I have at least a little drop of all of them to pass along to my grandchildren.  Because it does matter......

 

 

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